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Oh My Monday: Let him have an affair...

Monday, October 6, 2014

Now I am not condoning him to go out and have an affair with another woman or cheat on you in any way. I believe in fidelity and monogamy. Ok, now that you are not freaking out and thinking what a b, read on.
 
We all know the term bromance but as women, do we truly know it's meaning? No, we don't. We never will. We should not either. You're probably asking me why the hell not? Why should we? Men don't understand the relationship we have with our bff's. It is called "bro"mance for a reason. It's guy love between two guys (not talking about the physically intimate). I used to get jealous of Jake and his best friend. They've been together since they were 2 years old. The fact that he felt comfortable talking about certain things with him but not me really hurt me. I felt as if he didn't trust me or even really care about me the same way I did. It was ridiculous. Shouldn't he be coming to me with his problems? NO! Listen ladies, we think we want to hear it all but then when we do we get upset! I'm not saying it's every single woman or every single time but yea, we just don't like it. We are made different than them. We think different than men. That's ok. It's good for us and for them.
 
Take a moment and think about this, what is something you talk about with your best friend but would never talk about with your man? Yea, my best friend is reading this and dying laughing because she and I both know what that one thing is because we talk about it almost daily. It's something that I can't talk about with Jake with out giggling like a little girl and blushing. With her, we laugh and say sorry, dude that seriously sucks. Just because he asked you what you did today, doesn't mean he wants to hear the extreme primping and pruning you did. That's left for our girlfriends. You don't want to hear him talk about scratching himself or how he almost suffocated from his own gas. No, that's not our thing. I don't care if you think you're "one of the guys" because you never will be because you're a woman. I get along great with all of Jake's friends. His best friend is a great friend of mine. I love the guy and his little family. I've hung out with the guy with out Jake before because, yea we are friends. I've known him as long as I've known Jake and he's been there for me so many times but I will never have the relationship with him that he has with Jake.
 
After almost ten years, I don't care if he says, "Hey, Dickie and I are going to go grab a beer." My answer is, cool have fun. They need to get out of the house and talk with them. If we get to complain about them to our girlfriends then they get to complain about us to their buddies. Want a great relationship with him? Then stop getting mad when he wants a night with his buddies. If he dedicates most of his time to you then he deserves a night with the guys. If he comes home and crawls in bed and gets all lovey, be grateful. It means he's proud of you. He probably brags about you to his buddies. Now go give him a smooch and tell him to go get his buddies together for some beers. You'll thank me late.

*Alyssa*

2 comments:

  1. LOVE this. I'm only 6 months into my relationship and we're still dating, so I'm kind of new to all of this but I wasn't prepared for the bromance aspect of things. My bf and his best friend are VERY close and I like him a lot, but I do occasionally feel a pang of jealousy when he talks about him and how they've been together for nearly their whole lives. I wanted to be his "one and only" but I'm not. On the other hand, I know he loves me a lot and I'm happy he's had such a close, loyal friend for so long. It's amazing.

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    1. The best advice I can give you, is keep dating now matter how long you are together. As long as you are, he will always make sure you know you are loved and a priority in his life. I've learned how healthy the bromance is. The only thing I feel that's cheating with friendships is if they were to find someone of the opposite sex and confide in them. That's emotional cheating and I've seen it all too often lead to worse. Just remember though, you're the one who gets to see his true emotions, they will hide some of those from their bros. Plus you get to see him naked ;)

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